> I would love to learn more about this. I think that's great. I'd encourage you to go looking for evidence your assumptions are wrong rather than looking for

> I would love to learn more about this. I think that's great. I'd encourage you to go looking for evidence your assumptions are wrong rather than looking for evidence that confirms it. This is a widespread misconception, so you'll find no shortage of think pieces to support your prior if you go looking for them. Evidence that this is in fact a misconception may be harder to come by, but you'll find it. Something that helped it click for me was a friend walking me through their day step by step. In isolation, the experiences they were describing were struggles I and everyone else experiences to some degree. But seeing them arranged together made it click for me that their experience of life was just different. I was trying to be comforting to them by telling them something like, "hey, we all feel that way sometimes, but you just pick yourself up by your bootstraps," but that wasn't the right approach because it wasn't a "motivation and discipline" issue. It was like I was giving them advice for troubleshooting Linux while they were on Windows, the machinery of their mind was simply of a different make. Here's a metaphor that might help. It's pretty uncontroversial that cultures vary widely, and this often causes "culture shock" when visiting someplace foreign. Once I was in the Philippines, and the traffic patterns were illegible to me. It wasn't big cars in neat lanes, it was schools of motorcycles packed together and moving in all directions. I couldn't understand when it was my turn to cross the street and was almost hit several times. If you accept that premise, is it any wonder that other people's minds would be entirely different places?