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As a non-parent, I might replace the window with acrylic simply to deny the child the satisfaction of destroying plate glass

• joshspankit 3y ago
  Most parents would tell you that having a child learn how to deny satisfaction is a huge detriment. If they learn it from a parent it’s almost impossible to constructively address.
  • worthless-trash 3y ago
    Can you restate that for me, because the way I read it, you are saying that if you teach a child how to deny satisfaction it is a negative. I think there is evidence to show that children who can't delay/deny satisfaction end up making significantly poorer life choices and have worse lives. Anecdotally, every teenager I knew who couldn't accept delayed/denied satisfaction were absolute shits.
    • joshspankit 3y ago
      > Can you restate that for me Definitely. I appreciate when someone asks for clarity. The part I was talking about was “denying the child the satisfaction” as in the parent intentionally frustrating the child to teach them a lesson. I tried to take a shortcut by using the same wording as the person I replied to but I can see how that made it unclear. The point I meant to make is that if a parent uses that technique to teach lessons in that way it’s likely that the child learns to use that technique themselves and turn it on the parent. Further: If a child learns this type of technique from a parent it can be very hard to stop them from using it.