They have to have the experience of being successful on the other side of the struggle. And they have to have someone showing them the connection. Look at where

They have to have the experience of being successful on the other side of the struggle. And they have to have someone showing them the connection. Look at where you were before this. You struggled but persevered. Now look at where you are (in terms of either what you know or what you can do). That’s called growth, and it only happened because you stuck with it. Also, frankly, positive reinforcement will get you a lot of mileage.