Also, very sadly, but not uncommonly, the child may not get to enjoy the fruits of the focus on the future, because they may die. In my life: - A girl in my cl

Also, very sadly, but not uncommonly, the child may not get to enjoy the fruits of the focus on the future, because they may die. In my life: - A girl in my class aged 11 was killed by a bus. - A boy I knew aged 17 killed himself and girlfriend by driving into a tree. - A competitor at work aged 27 had a bad cold, went to the doctor and was rushed to hospital due to suspected Liver cancer and died on the operating table that afternoon. - Good friend at aged 29 A got a brain disease and died over three years. - Good friend at aged 31 got leukemia, recovered, got it back a year later and had an allergic reaction to the chemo and died. The last three were all high flyers - two or three degrees, published etc. They had (like me) sacrificed a lot to get where they had and were just (at that time) beginning to reap some rewards. The last fella in particular had just bought a house, got a steady girl who was good for him and had had an "inflection" type promotion. All for nothing. Teach children to enjoy it while they can. Maybe that gives them 9 happy years, or maybe 90. (edited for formatting)