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Thanks, our daughter lives with me, the mother isn't capable of looking after her for longer than a few hours at a time. I'm still financially supporting my ex-

• I_Am_Nous 3y ago
  The way you feel is justified, but it takes intentional effort to not allow that to consume you somewhat. Focusing on the hurt can make you vulnerable to negative feelings toward the mother, and as a child of divorce I can advise that you do your best to not speak ill of the mother around or to your daughter. The bar for what a child will understand as negative depends on the child, but even small frustration based complaints can hurt. There is always a chance the mother will experience a reversal of whatever mental health change may have precipitated this behavior, and wish to come back. As you mentioned, it's not like she picked her mental health condition. It sounds like you've been very patient with the situation, for a while, so good on you :) I hope the situation improves.