> Some reasons we might expect this to happen are: 1. People don't want to win or don't care about winning 2. People understand their mistakes but haven't put

> Some reasons we might expect this to happen are: 1. People don't want to win or don't care about winning 2. People understand their mistakes but haven't put in enough time to fix them 3. People are untalented 4. People don't understand how to spot their mistakes and fix them —— There is another very common reason. It is often emotionally difficult to acknowledge that you’re making simple mistakes that could be fixed by a relatively small amount of dedicated practice. Relatedly, most people have a fear of putting in the actual effort to get better and then still falling short of expectations (their own or others). It’s emotionally easier to pretend that there are other reasons outside of your control and that dedicated practice wouldn’t make a difference anyways. In my experience, the solution to this to work on accepting your emotions and developing inner security such that you don’t feel that your self-worth depends on the outcome of these events. One might even discover that they don’t actually even care that much about achieving a high level of performance in activity X and that the “need” to be good at it is a manifestation of older behavioral patterns and conditioning that don’t necessarily benefit them today :)