> If straight people can act naturally around their partners, but people with other sexual preferences have to police all their normal behaviours all the time,

> If straight people can act naturally around their partners, but people with other sexual preferences have to police all their normal behaviours all the time, lest they are impolite enough to break the hosts rules I very much agree with the point of your post. I will also say that in many of those same countries, even as a straight person, you're not getting a hotel room with your partner without marriage, either.