The things written and said in private are often more real than how that person acts to your face. If I found the same things, it'd call the entire relationship

The things written and said in private are often more real than how that person acts to your face. If I found the same things, it'd call the entire relationship into question. Maybe you're okay being led on or talked about but that's not universal. Plenty of human behavior is destructive, our social behavior is no exception.