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It's not just the sex with someone else. The main character is lying to their girlfriend the entire time, avoiding the girlfriend to prepare in secret, trying t
by gurchik 3y ago
It's not just the sex with someone else. The main character is lying to their girlfriend the entire time, avoiding the girlfriend to prepare in secret, trying to "get" her before she herself gets "got." But she didn't even know for sure the "got" was going to come. Yes, she saw the "temporary" label, but every relationship starts out temporary. Sometimes people date other people knowing ahead of time that it won't last forever. Sometimes people express that fact in writing (private diary, spreadsheet, whatever). That doesn't excuse this behavior. I'm curious, if cheating in this kind of relationship is fine, when do you think it becomes unacceptable?
- lmm 3y ago> But she didn't even know for sure the "got" was going to come. Yes, she saw the "temporary" label, but every relationship starts out temporary. Sometimes people date other people knowing ahead of time that it won't last forever. Sometimes people express that fact in writing (private diary, spreadsheet, whatever). That doesn't excuse this behavior. I'm not completely convinced. I don't agree with "every relationship starts out temporary"; to me a relationship should be part of a good-faith effort towards a permanent relationship unless agreed otherwise. (And if you take the position that the girlfriend didn't agree to a relationship at all, then by the same token she can't complain about it being nonexclusive). If you know someone's maintaining a relationship with you under deeply false pretenses (explicitly or implicitly), then I don't think you owe them or your relationship any loyalty.
- spencerchubb 3y agoI don't really view it as a faithful romantic relationship, so I don't view it as cheating. One party considered it temporary while holding up a facade that they viewed it as legitimate.