Does having ADHD and/or being on the spectrum mean that, if your girlfriend discovers you think of the shared relationship as temporary, she shouldn't leave? P

Does having ADHD and/or being on the spectrum mean that, if your girlfriend discovers you think of the shared relationship as temporary, she shouldn't leave? Perhaps the moral of the story is "other people exist and have agency". Sure, you've got coping mechanisms, but if they're emotionally destructive to other people then you might need better coping mechanisms that aren't awful. Maybe you could use the spreadsheet for potential birthday presents and favourite foods instead of deciding to string your partner along but eventually leave. Or perhaps it's "you're not always the centre of the story". Sometimes the story is about the other person being a complete weirdo. Your chill, or lack thereof, is less important than finding out your partner wants to leave you. Or perhaps it's "self-improvement gets you out of bad situations". Through the process of getting to 10, the protagonist met her future girlfriend and learned to leave her current emotionally hurtful one in a kinder way.