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Good site design, poor community culture. Their design allows them to focus on 'acculturating' new users, but does very little to spell out that culture or pre

Good site design, poor community culture. Their design allows them to focus on 'acculturating' new users, but does very little to spell out that culture or present unambiguous guard rails. There are some prominent posters whose personal projects get free passes. I don't feel like Lobsters is a community friendly to people on the spectrum. They expect allistic members who all understand socializing on an intuitive and instinctual level. I've considered looking for an invite, but I don't think I'd be well received and I don't care for being reprimanded by a stranger over tone or 'unprofessionalism' when I see straight trolling or passive aggression in comments. The invite system is solid but I would change a few things to turn it into a place I might have a chance of being welcome.

kaba0 3y ago
If you request an invite here publicly (and have an email in your profile), I’m sure you can easily get one. Also, I haven’t seen anything like tone policing and ‘unprofessionalism’, and I think the boundaries usually are quite objective and trivial.
- culi 3y ago
  Not sure if this is a hint, but I've been interested in getting an account for a while if anyone is able to invite
- zlg_codes 3y ago
  It's important to choose who you invite, and who invites you, carefully. If the invitee screws up, it reflects poorly on the inviter. If the inviter screws up, everyone they invited may also get looked at. I don't know anyone on Lobsters enough to have that sort of relationship with. I don't really submit things, even here; not worth the trouble of being told something's a bad fit, off-topic, repost, bad title, or some other nitpick. There is likely to be friction if I were to participate there, so it's for the best. If it works for you, that's good.
  - kaba0 3y ago
    Your choice, I was invited that way and didn’t see any negative. The ultimate majority of people are decent beings.

kaba0 3y ago

If you request an invite here publicly (and have an email in your profile), I’m sure you can easily get one. Also, I haven’t seen anything like tone policing and ‘unprofessionalism’, and I think the boundaries usually are quite objective and trivial.

culi 3y ago
Not sure if this is a hint, but I've been interested in getting an account for a while if anyone is able to invite
zlg_codes 3y ago
It's important to choose who you invite, and who invites you, carefully. If the invitee screws up, it reflects poorly on the inviter. If the inviter screws up, everyone they invited may also get looked at. I don't know anyone on Lobsters enough to have that sort of relationship with. I don't really submit things, even here; not worth the trouble of being told something's a bad fit, off-topic, repost, bad title, or some other nitpick. There is likely to be friction if I were to participate there, so it's for the best. If it works for you, that's good.
- kaba0 3y ago
  Your choice, I was invited that way and didn’t see any negative. The ultimate majority of people are decent beings.