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The hardship of having kids is not to be neglected. I have 2 and they're the people I love the most. The amount and sizes of sacrifices I had to make to have
by xutopia 3y ago
The hardship of having kids is not to be neglected. I have 2 and they're the people I love the most. The amount and sizes of sacrifices I had to make to have them and the continuous worry that something will happen to them... I'm always on the lookout. I can't fathom my life without them but I would imagine my life would have less worry.
- low_tech_love 3y agoSame here, I can’t even begin to imagine not hearing their voices in the morning, but I can see why people would choose not to have them. It’s not about whether they will regret it or not (it’s hard to regret something you never had…?) but about the fact that making the choice itself seems easier and easier.
- sho_hn 3y agoI honestly find it puzzling. My day job is far more stressful on a daily basis than parenting is. Being a parent must be a lot harder in the US, otherwise I can't explain it to myself.
- klipt 3y ago"It takes a village" to raise children and many people in the US have lost their village, e.g. due to moving to chase high paying jobs. Not sharing the work with relatives or neighbors makes everything harder. You're the single point of failure. No redundancy.
- smitty1e 3y agoMy two are such a crucial part of the life experience. There are plenty of reasons to eschew judgement of the childless. But not at least participating in some community involving children, to pass on one's life lessons seems...suboptimal.