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Even if you have kids, it’s a gamble that they will be anything more than an occasional visitor. At 70 years old, your kids will be fully formed adults with th

Even if you have kids, it’s a gamble that they will be anything more than an occasional visitor. At 70 years old, your kids will be fully formed adults with their own families and lives taking priority and they don’t have time for some senior citizen’s problems or diaper changes. womp womp

EA-3167 3y ago
It's worth noting that this is very much not true for many people, especially ones who come from cultures which don't simply abandon their elderly relatives. No one in my family has ever been simply left to their own devices to sink or swim.
koolba 3y ago
> Even if you have kids, it’s a gamble that they will be anything more than an occasional visitor. It’s hardly a gamble when your actions and life choices tip the scales. People who complain about their kids not being a part of their life in their old age should spend their idle time considering how they raised said kids. If you do it right, they want to see you. > At 70 years old, your kids will be fully formed adults with their own families and lives taking priority and they don’t have time for some senior citizen’s problems or diaper changes. Having someone who cares about you is more than just listening to rambling stories and wiping your ass. It’s everything from a second pair of eyes watching out for your well being to a sense of connection to the future.
- chron9208 3y ago
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  - nvm0n2 3y ago
    > luxury senior living with world class caretakers when you are older Is this meant to describe care homes? Hard to think of many people who would describe them that way. They're usually a last resort, for if family can't or won't take care of you, not luxury senior living. And it's easy to say now, well, everyone will be taken care of by the state when they're old. But that assumes other people have enough kids to staff the care homes, or that it's OK to gamble on being attended to by robots in a sort of fully automated dementia farm. If there aren't enough children then elderly care becomes unaffordable, and pensions become worthless. Then the childless will have a problem.
usrusr 3y ago
Chances are you only complain why they hardly ever visit or call. But even that is far from having nobody at all except for your last surviving generational peers. Parents and grandparents perceive their descendants' life as if it was a third person view game. Much of it happens of-screen and the controls are terrible, often worse than absent, but it still keeps them interested in the next day/month/year. If you only have your own remaining years to look forward to you have much less.

EA-3167 3y ago

It's worth noting that this is very much not true for many people, especially ones who come from cultures which don't simply abandon their elderly relatives. No one in my family has ever been simply left to their own devices to sink or swim.

koolba 3y ago

> Even if you have kids, it’s a gamble that they will be anything more than an occasional visitor. It’s hardly a gamble when your actions and life choices tip the scales. People who complain about their kids not being a part of their life in their old age should spend their idle time considering how they raised said kids. If you do it right, they want to see you. > At 70 years old, your kids will be fully formed adults with their own families and lives taking priority and they don’t have time for some senior citizen’s problems or diaper changes. Having someone who cares about you is more than just listening to rambling stories and wiping your ass. It’s everything from a second pair of eyes watching out for your well being to a sense of connection to the future.

chron9208 3y ago
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- nvm0n2 3y ago
  > luxury senior living with world class caretakers when you are older Is this meant to describe care homes? Hard to think of many people who would describe them that way. They're usually a last resort, for if family can't or won't take care of you, not luxury senior living. And it's easy to say now, well, everyone will be taken care of by the state when they're old. But that assumes other people have enough kids to staff the care homes, or that it's OK to gamble on being attended to by robots in a sort of fully automated dementia farm. If there aren't enough children then elderly care becomes unaffordable, and pensions become worthless. Then the childless will have a problem.

usrusr 3y ago

Chances are you only complain why they hardly ever visit or call. But even that is far from having nobody at all except for your last surviving generational peers. Parents and grandparents perceive their descendants' life as if it was a third person view game. Much of it happens of-screen and the controls are terrible, often worse than absent, but it still keeps them interested in the next day/month/year. If you only have your own remaining years to look forward to you have much less.