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Learn to recognize kindness and do not mistake it for niceness. Kind people are always nice. Nice people aren’t always kind. Before entering into a relationshi
by junto 3y ago
Learn to recognize kindness and do not mistake it for niceness. Kind people are always nice. Nice people aren’t always kind.
Before entering into a relationship with someone else, make sure you understand and own your own traumas, have accepted yourself and are content with who you are. You cannot do that easily with the added complication of a relationship. It adds a dynamic that will trigger every single unrecognized negative personality trait you have, and that will trigger theirs.
People move large distances to live somewhere else for love, work or to escape. Be careful you aren’t running away from yourself.
Your children will grow up quicker than you think. Those moments at every step of their development you will never have again. Before you know it you won’t be able to lift them up on your arm. Before you know it they spend most of their time with their friends and think you’re old and dumb. Before you know it they’ve moved out and are living far away. Before you know it you get to speak to them once a month on the phone.
You parents won’t always be around. If your parents are 65 and you see them once a year, you’ll see them an estimated grand total of 10-15 more times if you’re lucky.
Practice analyzing risks before making crucial decisions, but do not become paralyzed by your risk analysis.
Choosing not to do something is also a decision.
Your health is the most important valuable thing you ever have.
And use sunscreen.
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- FalconSensei 3y ago> If your parents are 65 and you see them once a year, you’ll see them an estimated grand total of 10-15 more times if you’re lucky. this kills me every time, specially since I live in a different country, so I can't see them much more than that
- dave333 3y agoSet up a regular zoom meeting - maybe a meal like Sunday lunch each with a laptop across the table.
- FalconSensei 3y agoI do video calls every other day. But it's different than being in the same room :/
- WirelessGigabit 3y agoSame here. 9 hour time difference. Mom is 70. I try to thank her every time I call with her, and apologize for being an ass. But what hurts me the most is that I can't help her. I can't fix the computer, or clear the gutters. You know, things that an adult son should be doing. Nor can I invite her for coffee. Well, actually, she'd come around unannounced, via the gate, not using the front door. I got angry about that multiple times. But now, I would be really happy.
- gadders 3y ago>> Your children will grow up quicker than you think. The days are long but the years are short.
- gabinator 3y agoAnalysis paralysis is the bane of my existence. It's why I couldn't be a productive artist/designer. There are too many subjective and inconsequential decisions to invent.
- circlefavshape 3y ago> Before entering into a relationship with someone else, make sure you understand and own your own traumas This seems like bad advice to me, given that it rules out romantic relationships for anyone under the age of ~30