But, aren't both victims? Forcing anyone who has been subjected to anything to do so only if their suffering was as bad, relatively, as another arbitrary examp

But, aren't both victims? Forcing anyone who has been subjected to anything to do so only if their suffering was as bad, relatively, as another arbitrary example, means the word "victim" has no real use, beyond some imaginary situation of absolute suffering. Anyone could challenge anyone's claim to victimhood just by pointing out a potentially worse situation for someone else.