My son is almost 15 now, but I still remember many of his tantrums. I don't know if I did the right thing, and I think we over weight our response in connection

My son is almost 15 now, but I still remember many of his tantrums. I don't know if I did the right thing, and I think we over weight our response in connection to their future personalities, thinking if we don't get it exactly right, we're going to significantly change how they turn out. I think there's some effect, but many other factors weigh far more. Walking away can help, but I also found just distracting them works, or sometimes getting mad with them can make them feel understood. Find what works and what you can live with, and if you see it happening more and more, then try different things to see what happens. Parenting is really tough (Rather than a cranky toddler, I'm dealing with a freshman that gets behind, procrastinates, and lies about it to us!) and just when you figure them out, they change! Hang in there and don't beat yourself over finding the "right" way.