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Can second this. Over the last few years I fixed some hormonal, dietary, and stress issues which resulted in much clearer skin, better hair, and more toned/musc
by gehwartzen 3y ago
Can second this. Over the last few years I fixed some hormonal, dietary, and stress issues which resulted in much clearer skin, better hair, and more toned/muscular body; taking me from average to conventionally attractive based on commentary from friends/family.
There is a clear boost in first impressions generally being much more positive, my ideas being regarded more highly, and coworkers/leaders wanting to promote me. I don't think my intellect has changed much over that time.
I will say looking good also has a clear boost on self esteem and boldness which I'm sure at least partially contributes to the social changes.
- Workaccount2 3y agoYeah that's a whole other dimension to it. The positive feedback loop it creates. With being unattractive, there is a metaphorical "gut punch" of sorts that you always get when meeting people. Often even from people you know. Imagine just before going on stage to give a presentation, getting yourself psyched up, and someone tells you "Your voice sounds kind of weird". It just entirely kicks you off kilter and it comes through in your talk. Being unattractive you end up getting kicked off kilter a lot. You might not even know it if its all you have ever known. But when you are good looking? It's almost like it switches and people make themselves vulnerable to see how you evaluate them. It's your word and your actions that matter, not theirs. People just openly pour confidence into your cup. The whole things is so bizarre logically thinking, it's so primal, so human.
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- handy2000 3y agoJust to add to that: confidence is often a wonderful substitute (or an enhancer?) for conventional physical attractiveness.