I guess it's true that talking about these things as universal can have rhat effect. On the other hand, and not necessarily disagreeing with you, but playing de

I guess it's true that talking about these things as universal can have rhat effect. On the other hand, and not necessarily disagreeing with you, but playing devil's advocate a little here; sometimes it's important to make clear what normal development does look like so that a parent of a child with delays understands confidently that what they're seeing isn't normal development. An acquaintance of mine has a son who's clearly delayed, probably autistic, but she's so steeped in "every child is different" rhetoric that she refuses to see the obvious, and it's going to be to his serious detriment unfortunately. I guess the trick is to describe clearly what is normal while also cultivating a culture in which there's no shame attached to these kinds of delays.