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In our Montessori school, parents do pick up other kids occasionally, and the kids would just stay with the family for the afternoon. Ideally, kids take turns s

by manmal 3y ago

In our Montessori school, parents do pick up other kids occasionally, and the kids would just stay with the family for the afternoon. Ideally, kids take turns so sometimes parents get an afternoon off. Another thing that sometimes works (lots of preconditions) - living in walking distance of grandparents or siblings, and let the kids visit family frequently.

lotsofpulp 3y ago
> Another thing that sometimes works (lots of preconditions) - living in walking distance of grandparents or siblings, and let the kids visit family frequently. If you are not sufficiently rich such that you can afford personal services such as live in nannies and flights to visit family and whatnot, I find that living walking distance to close family is one of the biggest quality of life upgrades one could make (obviously assuming you get along with them). The redundancies it provides makes for much less stressful living, along with many other benefits.
- ryanjshaw 3y ago
  > living walking distance to close family is one of the biggest quality of life upgrades one could make And yet those with the power to change this situation choose not to. We have to work in office buildings located in expensive commercial districts with small homes/accomodation and no real community, or spend hours commuting each week if we want to live in the suburbs. After a few decades we earn enough money to escape and retire to a small town with greater space and more community, but our now adult children are forced to trek back to the big city to earn a living. The grandchildren get to see granny and grandpa a few times a year, if they're lucky. One of the few developments improving this situation, remote work, is sadly considered a privilege.
  - xapata 3y ago
    If there weren't so many cars and the associated danger, it'd be easier to use public spaces and not feel like your "small" apartment is cramped. I bought a house and miss my 2-bedroom apartment. Enough that my wife and I are considering moving back into an apartment and renting out our house.
    - ajmurmann 3y ago
      It doesn't help either that outdated fire codes pretty much dictate apartments in the US to follow the double-loaded hallway pattern which makes apartments less pleasant and makes it hard to build ones that are pleasant for families. https://www.niskanencenter.org/how-to-build-more-family-sized-apartments/ https://www.niskanencenter.org/how-to-build-more-family-size...
- WarOnPrivacy 3y ago
  > If you are not sufficiently rich such that you can afford personal services such as live in nannies and flights to visit family and whatnot, I find that living walking distance to close family is one of the biggest quality of life upgrades one could make Being able to choose housing with that level of granularity still requires wealth that exceeds most incomes. For most, just finding housing without lots of significant negative impacts - this is about the edge of possibility. For even that minimal outcome, the odds aren't terrific.

by manmal 3y ago

lotsofpulp 3y ago

> Another thing that sometimes works (lots of preconditions) - living in walking distance of grandparents or siblings, and let the kids visit family frequently. If you are not sufficiently rich such that you can afford personal services such as live in nannies and flights to visit family and whatnot, I find that living walking distance to close family is one of the biggest quality of life upgrades one could make (obviously assuming you get along with them). The redundancies it provides makes for much less stressful living, along with many other benefits.

ryanjshaw 3y ago
> living walking distance to close family is one of the biggest quality of life upgrades one could make And yet those with the power to change this situation choose not to. We have to work in office buildings located in expensive commercial districts with small homes/accomodation and no real community, or spend hours commuting each week if we want to live in the suburbs. After a few decades we earn enough money to escape and retire to a small town with greater space and more community, but our now adult children are forced to trek back to the big city to earn a living. The grandchildren get to see granny and grandpa a few times a year, if they're lucky. One of the few developments improving this situation, remote work, is sadly considered a privilege.
- xapata 3y ago
  If there weren't so many cars and the associated danger, it'd be easier to use public spaces and not feel like your "small" apartment is cramped. I bought a house and miss my 2-bedroom apartment. Enough that my wife and I are considering moving back into an apartment and renting out our house.
  - ajmurmann 3y ago
    It doesn't help either that outdated fire codes pretty much dictate apartments in the US to follow the double-loaded hallway pattern which makes apartments less pleasant and makes it hard to build ones that are pleasant for families. https://www.niskanencenter.org/how-to-build-more-family-sized-apartments/ https://www.niskanencenter.org/how-to-build-more-family-size...
WarOnPrivacy 3y ago
> If you are not sufficiently rich such that you can afford personal services such as live in nannies and flights to visit family and whatnot, I find that living walking distance to close family is one of the biggest quality of life upgrades one could make Being able to choose housing with that level of granularity still requires wealth that exceeds most incomes. For most, just finding housing without lots of significant negative impacts - this is about the edge of possibility. For even that minimal outcome, the odds aren't terrific.