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Would you be open to illustrating in general terms what your situation is like?

ge96 3y ago
Sure this is a "burner" account I had a poor background but I had grants so I did have access to education but I was bad at it eg. failed. I was lucky to pick up web development to try and get rich from high traffic ads. That did not happen. I worked in factories/restaurants and did some freelancing. I landed my first W2 agency job at $40K/yr then $50K/yr. I climbed the ladder, SWE contractor job $84K/yr then a failed startup thing, $110K after that. I then quit my job since I didn't want to learn C#/.NET (dumb). Was hard to get a job for a couple months, about to go work in Amazon Warehouse till another local agency picked me up for $75K/yr where I'm at now. All the while I've been either burning money (eg. POS car repair, or expensive toys) or helping my families (last 3 years) I think I gave them $60K+ in total. Current net worth is -$80K. Anyway I have been very fortunate/lucky I'm just dumb. I hate my job at the moment so I'm either going to get another job or get fired... repeat the debt implode cycle again.
- rngname22 3y ago
  Hating your job is a matter of the real, material conditions * your own perspective, optimism, ability to make lemonade out of lemons, and pain tolerance. Unfortunately it's often seen as easier to change the former than the latter (which seems to perhaps be developed throughout childhood and one's upbringing and former experiences), but I would perhaps try to brainstorm if you can ways to improve your own subjective perspective/lens itself. If you quit your prior job, and with your new one hate and want to quit it/think your discomfort for it'll get you fired, maybe you could try to reach out to those around you in your peer network (maybe a former dev coworker or boss or a current coworker and try to get their perspective on things). Maybe there's something with your own ability to tolerate discomfort or find solace in good aspects of your jobs that you could find.
  - ge96 3y ago
    The thing is, without debt, my job is decent, people would be glad. But it is also brain dead development. We outsource our work and I just glue it together... And then they recently have really gotten into micromanaging where every minute of the day is tracked vs. hey, you have two weeks to complete this sprint. That's what an agency is I guess. My ideal job I'm not qualified for unless I do it as a hobby eg. robotics. So I will free myself financially eventually and then do that for fun. And I will continue to help my families since they're in a worse situation than me. Hopefully I remember being poor. I used to dream of having a Lamborghini Aventador but now I realize that money could buy me a house with land somewhere.
    - ge96 3y ago
      6 days later I just got myself fired from my job lol. I guess my opinion on bad company practice went too far. Well I will see how I adapt to this situation. I could have quit but idk... I wanted that layoff effect where "it wasn't my choice" but I'm just a coward I guess.
- shipscode 3y ago
  Nothing dumb about helping your family, so it doesn't sound too bad to me all things considered.
- CoastalCoder 3y ago
  Sorry things are looking so bleak. We're pulling for you.
- tekla 3y ago
  > All the while I've been either burning money (eg. POS car repair, or expensive toys) its amazing how some people will just ship "expensive hobbies" in the list of "why do I have no money" explanations.
  - ge96 3y ago
    Well in my case I could have paid debt off instead of add more

ge96 3y ago

Sure this is a "burner" account I had a poor background but I had grants so I did have access to education but I was bad at it eg. failed. I was lucky to pick up web development to try and get rich from high traffic ads. That did not happen. I worked in factories/restaurants and did some freelancing. I landed my first W2 agency job at $40K/yr then $50K/yr. I climbed the ladder, SWE contractor job $84K/yr then a failed startup thing, $110K after that. I then quit my job since I didn't want to learn C#/.NET (dumb). Was hard to get a job for a couple months, about to go work in Amazon Warehouse till another local agency picked me up for $75K/yr where I'm at now. All the while I've been either burning money (eg. POS car repair, or expensive toys) or helping my families (last 3 years) I think I gave them $60K+ in total. Current net worth is -$80K. Anyway I have been very fortunate/lucky I'm just dumb. I hate my job at the moment so I'm either going to get another job or get fired... repeat the debt implode cycle again.

rngname22 3y ago
Hating your job is a matter of the real, material conditions * your own perspective, optimism, ability to make lemonade out of lemons, and pain tolerance. Unfortunately it's often seen as easier to change the former than the latter (which seems to perhaps be developed throughout childhood and one's upbringing and former experiences), but I would perhaps try to brainstorm if you can ways to improve your own subjective perspective/lens itself. If you quit your prior job, and with your new one hate and want to quit it/think your discomfort for it'll get you fired, maybe you could try to reach out to those around you in your peer network (maybe a former dev coworker or boss or a current coworker and try to get their perspective on things). Maybe there's something with your own ability to tolerate discomfort or find solace in good aspects of your jobs that you could find.
- ge96 3y ago
  The thing is, without debt, my job is decent, people would be glad. But it is also brain dead development. We outsource our work and I just glue it together... And then they recently have really gotten into micromanaging where every minute of the day is tracked vs. hey, you have two weeks to complete this sprint. That's what an agency is I guess. My ideal job I'm not qualified for unless I do it as a hobby eg. robotics. So I will free myself financially eventually and then do that for fun. And I will continue to help my families since they're in a worse situation than me. Hopefully I remember being poor. I used to dream of having a Lamborghini Aventador but now I realize that money could buy me a house with land somewhere.
  - ge96 3y ago
    6 days later I just got myself fired from my job lol. I guess my opinion on bad company practice went too far. Well I will see how I adapt to this situation. I could have quit but idk... I wanted that layoff effect where "it wasn't my choice" but I'm just a coward I guess.
shipscode 3y ago
Nothing dumb about helping your family, so it doesn't sound too bad to me all things considered.
CoastalCoder 3y ago
Sorry things are looking so bleak. We're pulling for you.
tekla 3y ago
> All the while I've been either burning money (eg. POS car repair, or expensive toys) its amazing how some people will just ship "expensive hobbies" in the list of "why do I have no money" explanations.
- ge96 3y ago
  Well in my case I could have paid debt off instead of add more