The AI field seems very diverse, maybe you're just handpicking a few companies. I agree to some extent, a lot of small startups are people hiring their friends

The AI field seems very diverse, maybe you're just handpicking a few companies. I agree to some extent, a lot of small startups are people hiring their friends and anyone who they would want to hang out with, which I guess is where the bias comes in. I don't do well in such environments that mix work and socializing together. It feels a bit cultish with their silly team gatherings. I don't know if there is a way around that. You can try larger companies that are less biased. Regardless you wouldn't want to work in a company that doesn't want you, no matter the reason. It just doesn't work out, and personally I try to be charitable and shrug it off. Eventually you find a good match, or even start something new and set the example.