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OP, this might be hard to hear but you are the problem. Your attitude and communication approach is clearly out of line. If you can't support the CTO and you ca

OP, this might be hard to hear but you are the problem. Your attitude and communication approach is clearly out of line. If you can't support the CTO and you can't influence them then there's no other option than for you to quit.

sinclairX86 3y ago
I appreciate your advice. Saying he is the problem is just as non-constructive as saying I'm the problem. People aren't problems, they're people. Rather, I have a "me and my CTO" problem. Judging by how my senior colleagues handle this by saying "it's just a job" and not get upset, I can see how their "me and my CTO" problems are much smaller and don't overheat on a daily basis. However, since my ambitions don't align with saying "it's just a job", I am still looking for other options. Quitting is on the list, so thank you for spelling it out.
- rndomhnsr 3y ago
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- murm 3y ago
  Well, you could just escape the situation and switch jobs but there are so many poor leaders out there that this same problem is probably going to manifest itself in your life again in some form, sooner or later. I would say it's more useful to learn to navigate such a situation. I would refer to Jocko Willink's advice on this as he's the real expert in leadership. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hp4hvVZFnfg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hp4hvVZFnfg
- meiraleal 3y ago
  you and your CTO problem is a you problem. From the POV of the CTO, your stubbornness might make him think you are responsible for the lack of results. You either quit or become cooperative if you want improvement.
- janee 3y ago
  Have you thought about taking on the role of CTO? Not sure if it's a possibility or something you even want, but it sounds like you're invested and have thoughts around the role. Maybe if it comes to quitting..before you do that have a conversation with the CEO about taking on the role?
jf22 3y ago
I have to agree. If you are passive-aggressively tagging your CTOs ADRs then you could be part of the problem. As an outsider, it would be hard to judge if this is just normal power-level/management bureaucracy stuff or unique to the CTO. Everything your saying sounds fairly common TBH.

sinclairX86 3y ago

I appreciate your advice. Saying he is the problem is just as non-constructive as saying I'm the problem. People aren't problems, they're people. Rather, I have a "me and my CTO" problem. Judging by how my senior colleagues handle this by saying "it's just a job" and not get upset, I can see how their "me and my CTO" problems are much smaller and don't overheat on a daily basis. However, since my ambitions don't align with saying "it's just a job", I am still looking for other options. Quitting is on the list, so thank you for spelling it out.

rndomhnsr 3y ago
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murm 3y ago
Well, you could just escape the situation and switch jobs but there are so many poor leaders out there that this same problem is probably going to manifest itself in your life again in some form, sooner or later. I would say it's more useful to learn to navigate such a situation. I would refer to Jocko Willink's advice on this as he's the real expert in leadership. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hp4hvVZFnfg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hp4hvVZFnfg
meiraleal 3y ago
you and your CTO problem is a you problem. From the POV of the CTO, your stubbornness might make him think you are responsible for the lack of results. You either quit or become cooperative if you want improvement.
janee 3y ago
Have you thought about taking on the role of CTO? Not sure if it's a possibility or something you even want, but it sounds like you're invested and have thoughts around the role. Maybe if it comes to quitting..before you do that have a conversation with the CEO about taking on the role?

jf22 3y ago

I have to agree. If you are passive-aggressively tagging your CTOs ADRs then you could be part of the problem. As an outsider, it would be hard to judge if this is just normal power-level/management bureaucracy stuff or unique to the CTO. Everything your saying sounds fairly common TBH.