Modern societies don't want control, then want "alignment". You don't want to control your wife and order her to make your dinner every night. You want her goal

Modern societies don't want control, then want "alignment". You don't want to control your wife and order her to make your dinner every night. You want her goals to be aligned with yours where she make dinner without you asking for it. If you think about it, alignment is "total and absolute control at every level".