While I agree with the sentiment it really depends on many factors, most of which are unknowable. That is, if you knew to certainty that a loved one would live

While I agree with the sentiment it really depends on many factors, most of which are unknowable. That is, if you knew to certainty that a loved one would live 2 months in hospice or 3 months in hospital most people would pick 2 months of peace. But it’s unknowable in the moment, and in my experience doctors do a really poor at explaining when a loved one is beyond help. My dad went into the hospital for CHF and I probably spoke to a dozen doctors and only one made it clear that there was no hope of improvement/going home. I stand by my statement that President Carter’s situation is very unusual.