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I totally relate to this and it's one of the reasons I try to force myself to go out every day (e.g the office). I don't want to let the anxiety tyrant to grow.

I totally relate to this and it's one of the reasons I try to force myself to go out every day (e.g the office). I don't want to let the anxiety tyrant to grow. Also, being in my mid thirties, I've realised that I've been drinking alcohol since my early twenties (nothing crazy, just a few pints of beer every now and then) not because I like the feeling of being drunk, but because I hate the feeling of being anxious and alcohol, at least for me, acts as a solid anti-anxiety drug. Anxiety sucks because it affects critical aspects of my life (social life, sex, perceptions about life itself etc) It's a complex and annoying problem, because if I go to the GP, I might end up taking pills and I really don't want that. The alternative is to go to a phycologist but, as with restaurants, it's better to get a recommended one and I haven't got any where I live. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

TomaszZielinski 3y ago
I partially mentioned this in my other answer ( https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38302927 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38302927 )--personally I found a big help in the "Feeling good" podcast and then "Feeling great" book (an older book "Feeling good" by the same author would also work). It's basically a variant of CBT, served in a digestible way. So if you don't want to start with pills, and you don't have a good recommendation for a psychologist, maybe you could try with a book, a podcast or something like that? (And I don't necessarily mean "Feeling good", that's just the one I can recommend myself.)
- Octabrain 3y ago
  I really appreciate the time you took for writing this and I'll definitely have a look to this Podcast you mentioned!
Ensorceled 3y ago
Many therapists will work on line. If you are only dealing with social anxiety, and not a lot of comorbidities (like ADHD etc.), online might be fine. Might be better than nothing in any case.
- Octabrain 3y ago
  Thanks for this recommendation. I'll search for information about this.

TomaszZielinski 3y ago

I partially mentioned this in my other answer ( https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38302927 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38302927 )--personally I found a big help in the "Feeling good" podcast and then "Feeling great" book (an older book "Feeling good" by the same author would also work). It's basically a variant of CBT, served in a digestible way. So if you don't want to start with pills, and you don't have a good recommendation for a psychologist, maybe you could try with a book, a podcast or something like that? (And I don't necessarily mean "Feeling good", that's just the one I can recommend myself.)

Octabrain 3y ago
I really appreciate the time you took for writing this and I'll definitely have a look to this Podcast you mentioned!

Ensorceled 3y ago

Many therapists will work on line. If you are only dealing with social anxiety, and not a lot of comorbidities (like ADHD etc.), online might be fine. Might be better than nothing in any case.

Octabrain 3y ago
Thanks for this recommendation. I'll search for information about this.