the relationship just isn’t relevant I think there is merit to everything you say, if you’re flying blind and wondering why anything happens to you but if you

the relationship just isn’t relevant I think there is merit to everything you say, if you’re flying blind and wondering why anything happens to you but if you objectively don’t care and work with integrity towards company output, none of the reindeer games matter yes, in a tighter job market where you have no savings all those things in your current job and those prior relationships matter if you want to reject that at the risk of being poorer, people are saying that’s fine too. if thats the reason you’re not financially stable: understandable, good for you for keeping a work life balance or prioritizing your mental health people aren't trying to say you’re inaccurate, only wrong in the sense that it’s not a necessary way to live and they aren’t going to pretend that it is anymore