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This man has a wife, lives in New York and talks about solitude like he knows more about it than the word's spelling. Lol.
by a-french-anon 3y ago
This man has a wife, lives in New York and talks about solitude like he knows more about it than the word's spelling. Lol.
- Barrin92 3y agosolitude, loneliness, and isolation are very different things. Isolation is physical separation, Solitude is conscious and voluntary self-reflection, and loneliness is the feeling of isolation. The last two can happen even if you have plenty of people around. Loneliness despite company, especially in urban environments, has been one of the most popular topics in art & culture for like a hundred years for a reason.
- brewtide 3y agoYup. In fact, veratasium just released a video discussing this a decent bit in the video linked below... "What the longest running study on happiness reveals" https://youtu.be/vSQjk9jKarg?si=k_zU_ua0VlQcpvJS https://youtu.be/vSQjk9jKarg?si=k_zU_ua0VlQcpvJS
- incomingpain 3y agoI watched this twice yesterday, the science does seem conclusive here. I have extreme loneliness. Strong indications of social anxiety. Alexithymia challenges on top of that. I have kind of run out of ideas how to fix this. Waldinger's point to not give up seems poignant but unclear what to do differently.
- verisimi 3y agoFunny. He's also a freelance writer. As such he can write about solitude - if he gets an article or two or even a book out his chit chat, perhaps become the guru of 'solitude' on talk shows.. I mean what's the difference between the real thing and a simulation of the real? Probs the simulation is better, especially if it pays the bills! Right?
- ergonaught 3y agoYour snide insults justify misanthropy. It is easy then to decide that being away from people who think and behave as you did, for example by pursuing solitude, may help prevent developing a misanthropic attitude. Even a strange person with a family and friends and a populated city environment can recognize that we need to get away from your way of being.
- a-french-anon 3y agoNice strawman you got there. No misanthropy in my post, just calling out someone who thinks being away from the hustle and bustle for a few days then returning home to a (presumably loving) wife is enough to know about the general effects of solitude. My post was indeed a soundbite, but if I must post seriously, I think his observation is only valid for such "normal" people having something to return to.
- bart_spoon 3y agoI have no dog in this fight, but I’m pointing out that they didn’t say there was misanthropy in your post, but that your post inspires misanthropy in others.
- a-french-anon 3y agoIndeed, my mistake. Still shouldn't inspire misanthropy, unless having a thin skin is a prerequisite of modern life.
- falloutx 3y agoYeah, he needs atleast 12 years living on a farm doing subsistence farming while not seeing another human being, and then I will listen.