I just find online events of this sort -- the announcement of a death, the nice words that typically follow -- a reminder of how awful we can be to each other w

I just find online events of this sort -- the announcement of a death, the nice words that typically follow -- a reminder of how awful we can be to each other while we still draw breath. Like you have to die before anyone can stop being awful to you. Many years ago, I was part of an online community and some guy died who had been mistreated and banned and they were like "We shall reinstate his account and do this other thing to memorialize him" and I just felt like "Wow, this guy was supposedly your friend. You couldn't have been nicer to him while he was still alive?" In that case, he committed suicide. I couldn't help but feel like he could have still been alive if they had been nice while he still drew breath and it just infuriated me.