I'd encourage independent open source maintainers to remind themselves that they don't owe anyone anything. If someone asks for something, it's perfectly reason

I'd encourage independent open source maintainers to remind themselves that they don't owe anyone anything. If someone asks for something, it's perfectly reasonable to tell them "Sorry, I don't plan to work on this" and "PRs welcome" -- or even "sorry, I'm not accepting PRs, feel free to fork". If they get indignant about it, just ban them. You don't have to feel bad. You write your code for you, if others find it useful, great, if they don't, that's their problem and not yours. It's really sad to see people decide they don't want to publish code because some strangers have weird expectations. Of course ideally those strangers wouldn't exist, but that's not something anyone can change... but it's perfectly OK to kick them out of your space.