You're saying that you wish there were some way that neither grandparent nor parent had to stay home with the children, other than spending a full salary on chi

You're saying that you wish there were some way that neither grandparent nor parent had to stay home with the children, other than spending a full salary on childcare, right? I guess my instinct is that all worthwhile pursuits require sacrifice and childrearing, being the most worthwhile pursuit, should reasonably take the most sacrifice. And I revel in the fact that, through decades of schooling and job experience and saving, I can keep my wife home with the kids and live in reasonable material comfort, just a little below the median income for equivalently sized households in my state.