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Yes, we evolved as a social species that thrived because of collaboration. But for most of our history we lived in small communities. Modern cities where you c
by eloisant 3y ago
Yes, we evolved as a social species that thrived because of collaboration.
But for most of our history we lived in small communities. Modern cities where you cross hundreds of new strangers every single day isn't the environment where we evolved.
Being able to ignore strangers is necessary to keep sanity.
- MichaelRo 3y ago>> Being able to ignore strangers is necessary to keep sanity. Precisely. Even in my clubs/bars drinking strategy of approaching strangers, I make great effort to become "familiar" to them before making the move. In fact picking up a random stranger for a conversation is in no way different than picking a chick for a possible later "good time" in a club. First and foremost you need to become nonverbally accustomed to them and they to you. And unless pushing for town's idiot, need to get the signals that they are OK talking to you. Otherwise especially when booze is involved, things can get messy fast. (You gotta be prepared for this situation too if you do this).
- MichaelRo 3y agoThere's an advantage in talking to total strangely (intellectually) connected strangers than friends or family. It's discussing sensitive issues like what to do when you got a crazy b*ch wife. Years of attrition and refinement eventually resulting in: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38267382 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38267382
- AlecSchueler 3y ago> picking a chick Is there a need to use this kind of language here?
- MichaelRo 3y agoSorry, my bad, English is not my native language. "picking UP a chick" :)
- AlecSchueler 3y agoNo worries, but woman would probably be the less dehumanising choice! And potential partner would be more inclusive.
- RamblingCTO 3y agoAgreed! But it also has a high cost for the community of the city. I still prefer my Airpods in the sub.