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I think he has a great point. Its crazy to me how much some have withdrawn into their digital world. There is so much talk today about understanding each other
by dexwiz 3y ago
I think he has a great point. Its crazy to me how much some have withdrawn into their digital world. There is so much talk today about understanding each other and unity, that it makes me wonder how much of those calls are pure projection. Our personal bubbles have crystalized into diamond shells, sound dampened by AirPods.
Talking to strangers carries risk. They could always say something to makes you feel bad, or be physically threatening. But like in all things in life, you have to be able to assess risk. And taking small risks that may open doors is surely better than never taking a risk ever.
Although I do disagree with asking questions like "Where are you going?" Personal questions that reveal specific details like location trigger many people's alarms. Its easier to talk about something in the local environment where there is no asymmetric information/power dynamic.
- willemlaurentz 3y agoThis. Thank you. > "Where are you going?" It is good to add that this is not my first question. Like you suggested, it is better to start with something that can be perceived by both parties (the author in the book refers to this as triangulation), you talk about something 'simple and stupid' like the weather to 'gauge' if the other party is interested in engaging. The author of the book (Joe Keohane) actually gives a bunch of tips to prevent the conversation from stalling because of 'standard script' (e.g. standard conditioned questions+responses like 'how do you do'). Worth the deep dive if you're experimenting and looking to get the balance right (and prevent to be perceived as the 'town's fool'. )