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This is a bit bluntly stated, but I agree wholeheartedly. I am an introvert who enjoys social interaction occasionally, but it must be meaningful in order not t
by supertofu 3y ago
This is a bit bluntly stated, but I agree wholeheartedly. I am an introvert who enjoys social interaction occasionally, but it must be meaningful in order not to be a draining experience.
I have often felt like the nectar for a hungry extravert to feed on, and when they are done with me, it turns out they never actually cared about ~me~; they just needed to feed on the social interaction with me to gain energy for themselves. I was just a means to an end for them.
As an introvert who craves meaningful connection, I have found myself being used and drained by extraverts countless times. I am as a consequence very wary of them.
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- willemlaurentz 3y ago> I have often felt like the nectar for a hungry extravert to feed on, and when they are done with me, it turns out they never actually cared about ~me~; they just needed to feed on the social interaction with me to gain energy for themselves. I was just a means to an end for them. This is a striking metaphor! Although I do try to gauge willingness to talk *before* actually engaging in a conversation I will keep your comparison in mind. I don't want to feed on anybody's nectar, so to speak. :-)
- supertofu 3y agoYou sound like a compassionate and thoughtful person! I think I have just had the misfortune of being exposed to a lot of people with less consideration.
- Yodel0914 3y ago> it turns out they never actually cared about ~me~; they just needed to feed on the social interaction with me to gain energy for themselves This rings very true. I have often in the past misread a conversation as sign of friendship; whereas for many people it was just something to do to fill in time.