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In which a column from a person with no social skills advises people with no social skills not to make friends at work, because they have no social skills and t
by psunavy03 3y ago
In which a column from a person with no social skills advises people with no social skills not to make friends at work, because they have no social skills and they'll fuck it up . . .
You meet people at work because it's work and they're people. If you can't set boundaries between your work role and your personal life, and negotiate the sometimes-complicated human interactions that are the boundaries between these things, that's a "you" problem, not an "us" problem.
No, your co-workers don't have to be your friends. Sometimes they shouldn't become your friends. Occasionally, though, in appropriate contexts, they can become your friends. Even if a social cripple who's a wannabe "influencer" wrote a column on the internet trying to rationalize why none of their co-workers ever wanted to be their friend.
- xela79 3y agoyou hit the nail on the head; you don't have to "befriend" all your co-workers, just find solutions together for the work related issues. During downtime, if you do happen to cross a like minded individual, do be more friendly, you never know if this person will in fact become a "bestie". I got plenty of friends, who left for other jobs, where years down the line, we still see and spend time with on a regular bases. so following this guy's advice on "don't be a friends with your co-workers" is just horrible.
- mmvasq 3y agoYou are so right. I just had some bizarre activists spend three years on exploiting all they learned using my friends as informants however. You do need to train your buddies the right way to handle a covert narcissist who comes into power, which is to team up not disband. This affects minorities the most. I spent 15 years with the same people, it is ridiculous to think you will have full separation of networks.