I didn't feel my parents were strict at all - perhaps the opposite. It didn't help that Dr. Spock put out a free range parenting book at about the same time. It

I didn't feel my parents were strict at all - perhaps the opposite. It didn't help that Dr. Spock put out a free range parenting book at about the same time. It was a great excuse for how they just didn't function themselves as parents or to a large part: adults themselves. I did find them very neglectful. I had needs and they didn't do a great job in getting them met. This reinforces the idea that your needs aren't important, and you instead become a people pleaser later in life, in an attempt to "win" the love of others. That's very sick thinking. I'm not for helicopter parents or anything, but there sure is a happy medium somewhere in there. I'm finding out now that I have very obvious learning and attention disabilities, and probably a touch of the 'tism. That should have been picked up relatively easy by the fact that I'm highly intelligent but had a complete lack of being able to do any homework, what-so-ever.