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Millennial here. If I didn’t hit the tech job lotto I would still be living with my parents with my wife and kids. It’s a shitty cycle. You have kids, and it’s
by syntaxing 3y ago
Millennial here. If I didn’t hit the tech job lotto I would still be living with my parents with my wife and kids. It’s a shitty cycle. You have kids, and it’s either my wife stays home or she works and gives all her wage to daycare. The only way to stay positive financially is to get “free” help which is to have your parents take care of their grandkids. I know the alternative is to just not have kids, but it absolutely sucks how it feels financially impossible it is to have kids.
- QuarterReptile 3y agoDo your parents nor desperately desire to spend time with their grandkids? Mine (and my wife's) make drop-of-the-hat multi-day visits across state lines, often precipitated by nothing more than us sending a cute picture of the baby. My wife's mom is just waiting for us to send an adequate signal that she should quit working to spend more time with our kids.
- syntaxing 3y agoI think there’s a difference between need and want though. My parents would drive 8hr+ to see their grandkids for 2-3 days but my comment was more about how grandparent child care is needed in our generation.
- QuarterReptile 3y agoYou're saying that you wish there were some way that neither grandparent nor parent had to stay home with the children, other than spending a full salary on childcare, right? I guess my instinct is that all worthwhile pursuits require sacrifice and childrearing, being the most worthwhile pursuit, should reasonably take the most sacrifice. And I revel in the fact that, through decades of schooling and job experience and saving, I can keep my wife home with the kids and live in reasonable material comfort, just a little below the median income for equivalently sized households in my state.