I’ve had those kinds of things in a relationship too - both with a partner ‘taking initiative’ to do something for me that I didn’t actually ask them or want th

I’ve had those kinds of things in a relationship too - both with a partner ‘taking initiative’ to do something for me that I didn’t actually ask them or want them to do - and vice versa, partner hurt that I didn’t take initiative to do something for them that they didn’t ask (but secretly wanted) me to do. Either way is unnecessarily frustrating, and while I’m willing to be a little bit patient while I train people out of the practice, sometimes it’s just not tenable. If you pause, take a breath, try to think critically, and both pre-answer anticipated questions and ask questions for clarification - better communication and more reasonable expectations are absolutely achievable. You’ve just got to be willing to commit to working on it. Not everybody sees the value in that unfortunately.