Why does the topic of individual couple negotiating decisions some people don't agree with make people so uncharitable and derisive? The person you replied talk

Why does the topic of individual couple negotiating decisions some people don't agree with make people so uncharitable and derisive? The person you replied talked about something critical to functional relationships which is the open communication about wants, boundaries, implications. Both individuals likely had unspoken thoughts or motivations. This is a relationship success story where people identify and share what is important to them. There's undoubtedly areas of the relationship where the roles are reversed, and I am sure you have your own "legos" too.