My spouse gets frustrated with me for being too verbose in my requests, and also frustrated with me for following instructions in "the wrong way" when those req

My spouse gets frustrated with me for being too verbose in my requests, and also frustrated with me for following instructions in "the wrong way" when those requests were under-specified in the first place. Knowing "the right level" to communicate requests can be challenging in any relationship, even one with 20 years of shared experience to fall back on.