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Marrying is irrational to begin with. A man that relies on rational thought should avoid marriage; the cons absolutely outweigh any advantage.
by snvzz 3y ago
Marrying is irrational to begin with.
A man that relies on rational thought should avoid marriage; the cons absolutely outweigh any advantage.
- 4gotunameagain 3y agoLove is irrational. If you avoid all irrational things, you are not human.
- snvzz 3y agoHate is irrational, and yet it does not justify murder. Similarly, you can love w/o sabotaging the relationship by marrying, giving the other party a red button and a strong incentive to press it, effectively pushing the relationship out of balance. Statistically, they will. And statistically, you'll be screwed.
- surajrmal 3y agoIs the incentive financial? Isn't this assuming you earn more?
- snvzz 3y ago>Isn't this assuming No assuming. Refer to data on Divorce Court rulings on who gets screwed. Spoiler: It is men, as well as the children if any. Hard data shows what the odds are like for children who grow up in broken families.
- sasaf5 3y agoI would even say it's perfectly rational. Having someone who understands you and supports you, reliably by your side is a huge boost to your capacity to reason.
- snvzz 3y agoIt (Love) is. But Love is also not tied to marriage, as registered outcomes show.
- sasaf5 3y agoHaving a loving person to share a personal history with is an advantage that's difficult to outweigh.
- snvzz 3y agoMarriage is well-known to work counter to that goal. It destroys families.
- sasaf5 3y agoPerhaps we live in much different cultures. I am curious. Well known where? By whom?
- snvzz 3y ago>Well known where? Well-known in the United States. >By whom? By anybody not willfully ignorant on marriage and its recorded outcomes. It would have to be willfully ignorant because, if living in the states, not noticing how much it is happening all around oneself would be very unlikely.
- UncleMeat 3y agoI have an extremely hard time understanding how marrying my wife made me more likely to break up with her.
- snvzz 3y agoDivorce court is the incentive.
- dragonwriter 3y agoThe availability of divorce means that failed relationships (which the availability of divorce does not cause) which end up in marriage can be resolved, but neither marriage nor the availability of divorces causes most of those relationship failures.
- cpursley 3y agoPretty sure the main advantage is passing on your genetics.
- snvzz 3y agoHaving children and marriage are independent concepts. Marriage is a concept humanity made up, and in another era might have made sense.
- cpursley 3y agoSure, we're not naturally monogamous. Marriage is something that we developed over time because it leads to more stable societies with less violence (no fighting over breeding rights, inheritance, etc). It makes sense now just as much as it did 5,000 years ago. Plenty of research shows that children from two parent households end up living more successful lives with more opportunities. And I'm a proponent of not getting married for any reason other than having children.
- snvzz 3y ago>Plenty of research shows that children from two parent households end up living more successful lives with more opportunities. Exactly. Two parent household. Once divorce happens (which will, statistically), it'll be a monoparental or otherwise unstable household. And the children will, too, suffer. All because of someone's irresponsible (done against hard data) decision to marry.