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Sure - I understand that you have your particular opinions on what communication is ok, I obviously have my own opinions on things that I find ok or not as well

Sure - I understand that you have your particular opinions on what communication is ok, I obviously have my own opinions on things that I find ok or not as well, but I also consider what things may be considered out of line by other people before communicating with someone and I think - I love my wife! - Well, I wouldn't marry her. Might be the kind of communication (obviously, broken down here to its base level here) that would be considered out of line by a significant portion of the world population. >I haven't seen any good arguments in favor of purchasing a diamond ring As a gift >which don't seem to dismiss and devalue the agency and right to an opinion of the purchaser. when buying a gift for someone it is probably good to consider and value the agency and right to an opinion of the receiver. Not saying you are forced to buy a diamond, I don't have, but that is partially because my wife does not have strong opinions on that subject either way.

atleastoptimal 3y ago
Well the breaking it down to the base level itself is part of what makes it objectionable, as well as the removal from context. Obviously I wouldn't say that if it were as distilled to what you paraphrased. I imagine the mode of what is permissible is slightly different in anonymous forum threads vs. real life. Even if it wasn't and I crossed the line a lot of people agreed with me, though maybe on net and only despite the first line of my comment. > when buying a gift for someone it is probably good to consider and value the agency and right to an opinion of the receiver. Which was obviously considered in the situation. But buying any gift of course is not a 50:50 affair. One person is spending all the money. By principle I think that person should have more finality in the decision than the person only receiving the gift.

atleastoptimal 3y ago

Well the breaking it down to the base level itself is part of what makes it objectionable, as well as the removal from context. Obviously I wouldn't say that if it were as distilled to what you paraphrased. I imagine the mode of what is permissible is slightly different in anonymous forum threads vs. real life. Even if it wasn't and I crossed the line a lot of people agreed with me, though maybe on net and only despite the first line of my comment. > when buying a gift for someone it is probably good to consider and value the agency and right to an opinion of the receiver. Which was obviously considered in the situation. But buying any gift of course is not a 50:50 affair. One person is spending all the money. By principle I think that person should have more finality in the decision than the person only receiving the gift.