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For me it is capacity to build the life they want and to do the same for their kids. Financially, yes, I need to leave them better off than me, inflation adjus

• manmal 3y ago
  My priority is giving my kids the tools to build their life themselves. For me, that means being smart about education if they want it (doesn’t need to be an elite uni IMO, but in our country there are none anyway) and the ability to maintain long term relationships. I think the latter is tricky and there’s no guarantee, but we go out of our way to always leave shame out of the equation (big relationship destroyer), and make them socialize (again, if they want to). Eg we have a car with extra seats so we can drive their friends too. We‘re also investing heavily (considering our finances) by putting them in a Montessori school where they can mingle with kids freely, with more teachers available to quell any mobbing.
  • benj111 3y ago
    I concur. For me, raising a child is about raising a functioning future adult. Bunging them £x000 when (hopefully) they're in their 60s seems a bit too late for me to have done my job properly. Further, what does the parent expect from their parents when they die? Are they going to be annoyed if they don't get 'enough'?