Spending money on something expensive but valueless to appease someone is starting what is supposed to be a lifelong partnership on the wrong foot. I'm happy to

Spending money on something expensive but valueless to appease someone is starting what is supposed to be a lifelong partnership on the wrong foot. I'm happy to get my fiancé something expensive, as long as it's valuable. I want her to have something valuable if I fail as a husband, it's more meaningful, it's a real commitment rather than a demonstration of willingness to appease. A woman that can't see that distinction is, to me, a woman that isn't interested in building a future.