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The happiest relationships result from both partners putting the other first. This forum is predominantly men. As a woman, I see variations on that "keep the

by klyrs 3y ago

The happiest relationships result from both partners putting the other first. This forum is predominantly men. As a woman, I see variations on that "keep the hubby happy" phrase all over womens' spaces. So yeah. Some equality here is a little refreshing.

oezi 3y ago
I would strongly object that both putting the other person first is a surefire way for happiness. Putting the other person first at your own detriment can easily lead to destruction.
- klyrs 3y ago
  Key point, the effort must be mutual. Putting your partner first at your detriment should be an intolerable proposition to your partner. In all things, moderation.
svnt 3y ago
I am getting tired of this default perspective that “it’s about time men got around to this.” Anecdotally I’ve never read or heard the male term IRL so I decided to check the phrases on Google trends. Direct comparison of both full phrases shows that “keep the hubby happy” essentially doesn’t exist: https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=keep%20the%20hubby%20happy,happy%20wife%20happy%20life&hl=en-US https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=k...
- klyrs 3y ago
  Funny that you cherrypick a single phrase that I actually made up, because I was generalizing, and use its unpopularity to insinuate that sexism never existed. https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=happy%20husband,happy%20wife&hl=en-US https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=h... Above I'm comparing "happy husband" to "happy wife" because it includes searches for the phrase "happy wife happy life" and I don't know of a similar rhyming phrase involving husband and I want the comparison to be apples-to-apples.
  - svnt 3y ago
    I didn’t insinuate anything about sexism never existing. I also didn’t cherry-pick anything, I used the exact phrase you said you’d heard all over women’s spaces. The data you show are based on broad terms that would be difficult to ascribe to any causes or uses as they could just as likely be a reflection of men’s increasingly poor mental health — “why isn’t my husband happy” or the increase in relative participation of wives in Google searches. Sexism is rampant. I had just hoped the incoming matriarchy would be more compassionate than the previous patriarchy. It isn’t looking good so far.

by klyrs 3y ago

oezi 3y ago

I would strongly object that both putting the other person first is a surefire way for happiness. Putting the other person first at your own detriment can easily lead to destruction.

klyrs 3y ago
Key point, the effort must be mutual. Putting your partner first at your detriment should be an intolerable proposition to your partner. In all things, moderation.

svnt 3y ago

I am getting tired of this default perspective that “it’s about time men got around to this.” Anecdotally I’ve never read or heard the male term IRL so I decided to check the phrases on Google trends. Direct comparison of both full phrases shows that “keep the hubby happy” essentially doesn’t exist: https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=keep%20the%20hubby%20happy,happy%20wife%20happy%20life&hl=en-US https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=k...

klyrs 3y ago
Funny that you cherrypick a single phrase that I actually made up, because I was generalizing, and use its unpopularity to insinuate that sexism never existed. https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=happy%20husband,happy%20wife&hl=en-US https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&geo=US&q=h... Above I'm comparing "happy husband" to "happy wife" because it includes searches for the phrase "happy wife happy life" and I don't know of a similar rhyming phrase involving husband and I want the comparison to be apples-to-apples.
- svnt 3y ago
  I didn’t insinuate anything about sexism never existing. I also didn’t cherry-pick anything, I used the exact phrase you said you’d heard all over women’s spaces. The data you show are based on broad terms that would be difficult to ascribe to any causes or uses as they could just as likely be a reflection of men’s increasingly poor mental health — “why isn’t my husband happy” or the increase in relative participation of wives in Google searches. Sexism is rampant. I had just hoped the incoming matriarchy would be more compassionate than the previous patriarchy. It isn’t looking good so far.