Didn't downvote, but online forums are rarely a good place for relationship advice. In particular, if you're marrying someone, getting a grip on what she might

Didn't downvote, but online forums are rarely a good place for relationship advice. In particular, if you're marrying someone, getting a grip on what she might appreciate for years is a good first step, especially as the premise is the discussion has already been started in the couple and she voices her own opinions. How it goes down from there is probably a microcosm of how they'll deal with their future decisions.