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>People with wives should tie their own happiness to their wife's, shouldn't they? No, this invites emotional manipulation and abuse: "do/don't do this or you'

• smt88 3y ago
  Loving someone means wanting them to be happy. The type of emotional abuse you describe is available to anyone in a loving relationship.
  • Seattle3503 3y ago
    It's not necessarily about manipulation, it's about not being codependent. If every time your partner is unhappy, you freak out, your ability to be a good partner is diminished. Couples need some buffer between their emotions to dampen extreme lows.
    • oblio 3y ago
      You guys are reading too much into that expression.
      • svnt 3y ago
        They are probably relating lived experience and we should listen. The phrase isn’t “happy partners, happy life” and there is no “happy husband, happy life” equivalent that I’m aware of. It’s unbalanced, and if you have a partner that reciprocates, it must be confusing why the phrase is a problem. If you don’t, and you continually adhere to the phrase hoping they will until your health suffers, well we might reconsider our casual use of pithy sayings and their influence on children. It’s clearly a divisive issue here but that usually means people have had a diversity of experiences around the topic.