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Not everyone wants to spend $20,000 on a rock so that their spouse isn’t “embarrassed in front of her friends.”

selcuka 3y ago
Sure, but calling them your spouse then not giving a crap about their feelings is not fair. You were free to marry someone else, who thinks more in line the way you do.
- RationalDino 3y ago
  You are making unjustified assumptions. I am a person who doesn't wish to spend $20,000 on a rock so that my wife won't be embarrassed in front of her friends. And that is why I chose to marry a woman who thinks that spending $20,000 on a rock is a silly thing to do.
  - MadnessASAP 3y ago
    You both figuratively said the same thing...
  - selcuka 3y ago
    > that is why I chose to marry a woman That was my point. If you married someone who doesn't like diamonds, fine. The original comment was about "shenanigans like buying something else and passing it off as a diamond". Isn't there anything your partner likes? Would you buy something else because you don't wish to spend $X on Y, "passing it off as Y", and embarrass her in front of her friends?
    - bombcar 3y ago
      Exactly. The deception is the problem and secretly buying a “real conflict” diamond for a woman who doesn’t want to be involved with it would be just as bad.
bombcar 3y ago
Intentionally deceiving the person you want to spouse isn’t the way to play the game.
chezelenkoooo 3y ago
Get a lab diamond. It will end up costing around a quarter of the price.
- OJFord 3y ago
  Or have fewer flaws, more colourless, more brilliance, be larger, for the same price. Same thing, just that's more convincing to some people/shows it's not 'cheaping out', it's just a better deal.
lelanthran 3y ago
> Not everyone wants to spend $20,000 on a rock so that their spouse isn’t “embarrassed in front of her friends.” That's not the argument, AIUI. The argument is "Go ahead and spend $FOO on a rock, just be sure not to lie about how much you spent".

Sure, but calling them your spouse then not giving a crap about their feelings is not fair. You were free to marry someone else, who thinks more in line the way you do.

RationalDino 3y ago
You are making unjustified assumptions. I am a person who doesn't wish to spend $20,000 on a rock so that my wife won't be embarrassed in front of her friends. And that is why I chose to marry a woman who thinks that spending $20,000 on a rock is a silly thing to do.
- MadnessASAP 3y ago
  You both figuratively said the same thing...
- selcuka 3y ago
  > that is why I chose to marry a woman That was my point. If you married someone who doesn't like diamonds, fine. The original comment was about "shenanigans like buying something else and passing it off as a diamond". Isn't there anything your partner likes? Would you buy something else because you don't wish to spend $X on Y, "passing it off as Y", and embarrass her in front of her friends?
  - bombcar 3y ago
    Exactly. The deception is the problem and secretly buying a “real conflict” diamond for a woman who doesn’t want to be involved with it would be just as bad.

bombcar 3y ago

Intentionally deceiving the person you want to spouse isn’t the way to play the game.

chezelenkoooo 3y ago

Get a lab diamond. It will end up costing around a quarter of the price.

OJFord 3y ago
Or have fewer flaws, more colourless, more brilliance, be larger, for the same price. Same thing, just that's more convincing to some people/shows it's not 'cheaping out', it's just a better deal.

lelanthran 3y ago

> Not everyone wants to spend $20,000 on a rock so that their spouse isn’t “embarrassed in front of her friends.” That's not the argument, AIUI. The argument is "Go ahead and spend $FOO on a rock, just be sure not to lie about how much you spent".