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And how much did you help her when she was still alive? I think your complaint is unjustified.
by genman 3y ago
And how much did you help her when she was still alive? I think your complaint is unjustified.
- HideousKojima 3y agoHow nuch would the typical old person allow their kids to help out with getting rid of junk while they're still alive?
- genman 3y agoHow many have tried? Gently asking if this or that is needed indeed? Of course arrogantly claiming that they live in the middle of junkyard doesn't get anybody anywhere.
- plorkyeran 3y agoWe're currently dealing with this with my grandmother. She is absolutely not okay with anything being removed from her house, and the best we've come up with is to periodically have one or two people organize her attic and have a clear set of things which we know we need to go through when she dies and a set of boxes we know we can just toss. Even with this, it's looking like weeks of work.
- anymouse123456 3y agoIn dealing with a person (young, old, or MYSELF), I find it much more efficient to use the 3 piles technique: Pile 1: Definitely keeping Pile 2: Not sure, decide later, no pressure Pile 3: Definitely tossing I've had a small number of elderly people go from, "STOP TOUCHING MY STUFF! I WANT IT ALL!" to getting rid of so much, I'm sitting there trying to save some of it. This technique starts with no requirement that anything is tossed. The owner must simply touch each thing and choose a pile. Truly, no pressure and if they choose to keep every little thing, that's their choice. The family is clearing and bringing stuff into the inbound pile for the elderly person. It works even better if there's a grandchild around to help the sorter. The biggest thing this does, is stop the fights over every single object that go like: Kid: Mom, do you want to keep this? Mom: YES Kid: BUT WHY?! It's trash! - 10 minutes of arguing and it goes one way or another - repeat for each and every item in someone's home - Everyone is exhausted and angry after an hour or two I've seen massive family drama turn into a relatively enjoyable afternoon with Grandma sharing memories with her grandchild, while 3-4 adults clear an entire garage of stuff, almost all of which wound up going to the trash with Grandma's consent.
- genman 3y agoWeeks of work? That must be horrible. /s Come on, show a little more love toward your grandmother.
- ttymck 3y agoCan you take off weeks of work and keep your job? Can you lose your job and afford to feed your kids? For many people the answer to both is no.