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> (e.g., a failure to receive a promotion) Anecdotal, but many men often would not think to share a non event. IMO a better comparison would be got a promotio

> (e.g., a failure to receive a promotion) Anecdotal, but many men often would not think to share a non event. IMO a better comparison would be got a promotion vs got fired. Also this for a giggle: https://youtu.be/vQbWAvjL_-4?si=_xQGeiLIuJyDHOsV&t=459 https://youtu.be/vQbWAvjL_-4?si=_xQGeiLIuJyDHOsV&t=459

doubled112 3y ago
I'd imagine there's an aspect here of what is an event and a non-event.
- yieldcrv 3y ago
  anybody that's cohabitated with a different gender agrees with that
jstarfish 3y ago
This happened to me recently. A car traded paint with mine; there was no real damage (scuffs) and I didn't file a report or claim. Then I forgot about it altogether. It was a non-event to me until my wife found out, months later. I get why she was upset (it's data) but don't (it's noise) at the same time. Even if we paint women as overreactive, that's kinda their survival mechanism. Men are just as easily painted as dismissive; we only concern ourselves with immediate threats. Someone shooting at you and missing isn't a non-event because they missed, it's eventful because it signals the threat that someone shot at you. Gender: the uniform of polarized intelligence analysts who divine different insights from the same information.
tomcam 3y ago
Analysis: true
foinker 3y ago
The event is the attempt at the promotion. That the outcome was failure doesn't make it a 'non-event', and I think this is what the study is kind of getting at. Men mentally reconfigure these things into ways that protect our ego and/or status, whether we realize we're doing it or not. Maybe they chose that one over yours because getting fired is too difficult to not disclose. Your friends and dependents would certainly notice you've stopped going to work lol
- maerF0x0 3y ago
  Yeah i can now see your reading of my comment. By "Non event" i meant the absence of an event. not that it's non-impactful. I guess the difference is objective measure of "did a thing occur?" vs the subjective "Did the thing I wanted/expected occur?" (my usage of non-event being the former) .

doubled112 3y ago

I'd imagine there's an aspect here of what is an event and a non-event.

yieldcrv 3y ago
anybody that's cohabitated with a different gender agrees with that

jstarfish 3y ago

This happened to me recently. A car traded paint with mine; there was no real damage (scuffs) and I didn't file a report or claim. Then I forgot about it altogether. It was a non-event to me until my wife found out, months later. I get why she was upset (it's data) but don't (it's noise) at the same time. Even if we paint women as overreactive, that's kinda their survival mechanism. Men are just as easily painted as dismissive; we only concern ourselves with immediate threats. Someone shooting at you and missing isn't a non-event because they missed, it's eventful because it signals the threat that someone shot at you. Gender: the uniform of polarized intelligence analysts who divine different insights from the same information.

tomcam 3y ago

Analysis: true

foinker 3y ago

The event is the attempt at the promotion. That the outcome was failure doesn't make it a 'non-event', and I think this is what the study is kind of getting at. Men mentally reconfigure these things into ways that protect our ego and/or status, whether we realize we're doing it or not. Maybe they chose that one over yours because getting fired is too difficult to not disclose. Your friends and dependents would certainly notice you've stopped going to work lol

maerF0x0 3y ago
Yeah i can now see your reading of my comment. By "Non event" i meant the absence of an event. not that it's non-impactful. I guess the difference is objective measure of "did a thing occur?" vs the subjective "Did the thing I wanted/expected occur?" (my usage of non-event being the former) .