I have a rule of thumb for determining how difficult it is to be the boss somewhere. Maybe this is obvious, but I've learned it the hard way. Look at the expe

I have a rule of thumb for determining how difficult it is to be the boss somewhere. Maybe this is obvious, but I've learned it the hard way. Look at the experience of your team and the complexity of the projects. High complexity and low experience cannot be solved with "soft skills" no matter how much the business insists that it can. In that situation you're not a bad boss, just at the wrong place. Don't let incompetent upper management bully you. That's how they've kept their jobs this whole time after all. Nobody would ever think to be "bossy" in the first place if there weren't some underlying complexity being misunderstood and/or ignored. It's not just a matter of investigating this complexity and telling people what to do in a nice way, nor is it a matter of doing it yourself or finding extra resources to pitch in. Often it's just completely fucked and they want you to sit on the grenade.